Lately, there seems to be a dead approach to sexuality and sensuality, so the West has turned to the East for some solutions. Most have heard only in passing about the movement of Tantric sex.

Tantra, not to be confused with Yoga, also employs the focus on the chakras, the energies of the body. A gentleman recently wrote to me wanting to exchange some advice regarding the problems that he saw with sexuality. His study of tantric sex spans approximately 25 years, and he shared some very common conceptions, such as the manner in which sex today has been distorted to satisfy an appetite and for some, has been turned into a form of stress release. The casual nature of sex causes emotional problems for others due to the intimacy such an act requires.

This lack of attachment causes problems in achieving sexual satisfaction and this is perhaps because of the view that it is safer not to love and to merely satisfy an appetite. With this ‘instant gratification’ mindset, society is increasingly becoming driven by self fulfillment and individuals are finding it more difficult to connect with others.

Tantra practices involve honoring the sexual partner. You treat each other with respect and honor, as gods and goddesses, to harness the sexual energy from each other to build and heighten the senses. It involves a large amount of focus, and for full sensual fulfillment, you must not rush during the various stages that culminate in intercourse. There are mental states of preparation that involve the discipline of the mind,requiring a constant and dedicated practice.

There are several readings on tantric sex, however most only scratch the surface and disregard the warnings for casual use. Many of the western texts stray from the eastern original texts because of the religious overtones. A misconception about Tantric sex is that it is for Libertine use. These practices are meant for unions that are built for a lifetime or long term relationships where the partners are fully aware of each other physically. The focus is on the union of the bodies, in a much deeper state.

Tantra is viewed almost as a spiritual practice and takes a lifetime to master. There is a danger in bastardizing techniques for ones one gain, and the practices of Tantra are not recommended for those who are undisciplined. The strongest sexual organ you must learn to control is the mind, and once you have that under control, you have learned to focus your life in the direction you need to go. You can use this in all areas of your life, but of course it never hurts to have a great sex life.

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