Lust or Love?
“How can I make someone fall in love with me that is already taken? How can I make her see I can be the one?” He began. I looked at those words and felt his torment. Notice the control of trying to “make” an emotion exist within another person. You only control your own feelings and you can never create an emotion within someone else.
The rest of his story unfolds.
“It is not wrong for one and only one reason….you can’t help your feelings! How can I tell her that my feelings for her have grown and now I want her to be mine? I don’t know if this would end the relationship we have right now as close friends. Her man is kind of my friend as well. I can’t help getting jealous every time he caresses her in front of me! It’s torturing me!”
The tortured soul fell into coveting someone he did not want to begin with. Not love. Love takes courage. His feelings, whether based on a physical relationship or not, has gone into this quiet obsession with a woman he knows is with someone else. I would ask this man, why he doesn’t simply tell her before she marries. However, he answers his own question. He would rather have any part of her life, as a friend, than to be excluded from her life.
“I really like being with her, spending time with her, but I don’t know if I should tell her how much I’m in love, or just keep being her special friend. She wasn’t even my taste and I knew she was already taken, but the more I got to know her, the more I wanted her. Now there’s only her in my mind. She’s going to get married soon but I know she likes me. We have done more than kissed. Would it be a blessing if I just jumped into the river and drowned? ”
She may have affection for this man, but he is willing to interpret any affection as love. So rightfully he questions his sensibility and the risk of hurting all of the parties involved. Love is unselfish. The high drama of putting his emotions and feelings above hers is punctuated with his statement of desiring possession, “I want her to be mine.”
Often when affairs happen, they flame up with passion and quickly burn out. In most cases, the appetite is fed and since there was no foundation, the parties leave each other. His lust and desire, is not looking at her well-being. He is only seeking to have her. What on the surface appears to be very romantic, is far from what love is. Now that is something to really think about.
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