We have all seen the Hollywood version of romance, “Their eyes meet from across the room and they can’t stop staring…” and then the cut away to a torrid love scene. Five scenes later the wedding and they are supposed to live happily ever after. This sensible woman has lived that scene in real life. The reality of a soul mate, viewed on teaching you life lessons versus the incredible relationship of a “Twin Flame” relationship is the rarest of all relationships.

The origins of “Twin Flame” relationships actually spreads across many religions and philosophies. This relationship is said to be so rare, but what is stated in every text or study is that the twin flame is to be who you were split from at the origin of your initial creation. Your twin could be the same gender, married to someone else, or not even on the planet at the same time you are. So this obviously goes into areas on how much credence do you actually want to give this line of thinking or belief.

The problem that I have with the Twin Flame theory or Soul Mate theory…is this…you are what you believe. If you believe that you will never find the right person in your life…you won’t. If you believe there is a “one and only,” then there is only a one and only. You give power to whatever you believe in. So, you attract what you want in your life and push away every good thing with fear. Let me explain further. If you felt you met your true love and it is over through one of the three Ds (Death, Divorce, or Desertion), you choose to condemn yourself through your absolute thinking.

That is foolish and unfair to you and to whomever you enter a relationship with down the road. I am not saying you forget meaningful relationships, you don’t. You take the good and remember them well and don’t think about not having them anymore. People are not possessions. You always have the moments you have shared.

I do like that with both the Twin Flame and Soul Mate theories it requires you ‘to do’ and ‘be’. The ‘to do’ - is to love yourself first. You cannot love out of a deficit. If you hate yourself, look at your thighs in disgust and draw attention to those features you don’t like about you…you start to magnify those areas. Have a healthy love for you. The ‘to be’ - is to love unconditionally. Ah, very difficult my friends. The unconditional part is overcoming the fear factor. Most people hold back in this area because they are expecting something in return. Your expectation should be to love without expectation.

Love is not possessive, clingy, or desperate. Love is a state of being. You choose everyday to allow yourself to love and to be loved. When you understand that and are able to walk in this path, there is no way love won’t find you because you will be loved continuously.

Whenever you say to yourself, “I can’t live without this person.” Check yourself, really you can.

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